allie (allzy) wrote in ed_ucate,

Friends with disorders

Hi everyone :) I'm extremely nervous about a friend of mine, who I've always thought displayed eating disorder tendencies. She's gorgeous, and she's curvy, but she wears her weight well. Today, we were talking at lunch, and she told me that she had been throwing up her food a while back. I was in shock; I didn't know what exactly to say. I didn't immediately berate her, because that never solved anything for me. I just told her that she was beautiful the way she is, and that being skinny is so unfulfilling once you reach it. It's like Christmas for me-- you spend the whole year waiting for it, and you finally hit that fateful day-- and that's it. Over, and you're like "was this even what I wanted?" I just tried to be as supportive as I could have been, but I felt like there was something that I should have said, and I didn't know what it was. I just wish someone could have said something to me that would have stopped me, you know? Also, I worry that she'll think I'm being "condescending", just because I -am- skinny, and like I don't understand.

What I mean to ask is, if someone said something differently to you while you were in the developing stages of your eating disorder, do you think you might have not slipped into your eating disorder as much as you did? Is there anything I can do to help this friend stop from developing a disorder, or at least help her through it?

Thanks, everyone.

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