Wouldn't you like to know? (sunnybeaches85) wrote in ed_ucate,
Wouldn't you like to know?

Do you think it's pointless to help someone who isn't ready for help? I was told that going to the counseling center was pointless since I'm afraid of change. We started off discussing other things (family, introvert tendencies etc). She asked me if she gave me everything right then and there to change, whether I would do it. That would mean being close to my mother, and being comfortable around others. I want those two things more than anything, but I said no. I just couldn't imagine myself in those situations...too much discomfort lies there, even though I think I want it. The unknown is scary, if you know what I mean. Sure, things arent' wonderful now, but even if I was given the chance to change right now, I wouldn't do it. I know, I'm stupid.

Then she brought in the eating disorder. She said that it was pointless to come in if I was afraid to change. That it would be a waste of time for both of us. So now I'm not going anymore. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I mean, I see where she's coming from.

But what do you guys think of this? Is it pointless to help someone who isn't sure if they want change? I feel like wanting change is so hard to do alone. I mean if I didn't have a problem with change, I wouldn't be here in the first place. I see where she is coming from. Sometimes those who are so "deep" in their disorder lie in therapy just to get out--it's a waste of time. I just feel stuck. I didn't feel comfortable going in the first place. It's weird, because the dean said I had to do this to stay this semester. But then my therapist called and told her she didn't think it was for me. I'm rambling...blah.

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